Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Date Night

Russell and I realized a couple of nights ago that our 'alone' time has become routine and monotonous...without our even realizing it! We talked through our expectations of "our time," once again reminded that we see life so differently! For fulfillment, Shireen needs to TALK! Russell need to VEG! :) Marriage is TRULY HARD WORK! However, it is so fulfilling...when we are genuinely intentional.

So, as we sat on our sofa discussing our different perspectives, Russell suggested that we pray. (Always a great idea! :)) Then, Russell remembered the wisdom shared by our pre-engagement counselor...be intentional in your conversations and time together, perhaps allowing for a date night just for her, and then the next date night strictly for him. Genius! I praise the LORD for allowing Russell to remember this!! (See! God immediately directed us once we turned to Him in prayer!)

So, last night was date night for SHIREEN! :) Knowing this throughout the day, I prayed in advance, asking the Lord to help me come up with a creative, intentional 'plan' for our evening so that we would both enjoy our time and be fulfilled. By 1:00 in the afternoon, I still had no sense of direction...no plan, but I continued to pray. I casually went to my blog reader to check for any updates on my favorite blogs, and Bryan Johnson had blogged something that spurred my heart! "Thank you, Bryan, even though you don't even realize how God used your creativity!" :)

Bryan is an amazing photographer, and he has recently started including some fun "Questions & Answers" to entertain his readers while we peer through his subjects' (mostly brides & grooms) lives! SO, how did God use this for me yesterday? I copied and pasted all of his "Questions" and added some of my own onto a sheet of paper to take on our date night. This truly allowed for a fun and interactive evening for me and my hubby!!! I think Russell was even somewhat surprised/impressed!
Well, Russell suggested we go out to dinner, so he took me to Iguana Grill, a very cute, well-decorated (in a bright, funky fun sort of way! just look at the pictures! :)) Mexican restaurant, where we dined on chips & salsa (2 kinds of salsa!), guacamole dip, two yummy tex-mex meals of chicken, beef, enchilada, taco, steamed veggies, etc. As soon as our drinks were served, we started through all of the fun questions. We sat at the dinner table for almost TWO HOURS! That's a RECORD for ONLY the two of us!! AND because we had a sheet of paper (looking all professional, I guess! :)) that we appeared to be "discussing," the waiter left us alone in between serving us! He did not rush our time at all! It was such an unexpectedly FUN and fulfilling evening!! I praise the Lord, and I encourage you to try this, whether you stay home over a candle-lit dinner or go out for dinner or dessert/coffee! :)
Girls, here are some great example questions for your next date night!!!

-Were you to serenade your bride, what song would she hear?
-The greatest midnight meal.
-All costs covered by Travelocity, you two have 36 hours to be anywhere. Where shall we be going?
-Oscar, Grammy, or Pulitzer Prize. Who gets which?
-If your other were a fruit, which would your spouse be?
-It rains all Saturday. The Netflix guy lives next door. What three flicks do you borrow?
-An hour to roam the mall. Where will you be?
-Sir, you surprise her by cooking supper. What's on the menu?
-Your ultimate roll-up-the-rug, dancin' shoes mix CD starts with what tune?
-Groom, you go back in time and get to meet your bride for the first time again. Give us a your best one-liner.
-You came to a compromise. What color did you paint the room?
-Who would you say is your groom's/ bride's celebrity look alike?
-You and your groom/ bride are ice-skating. Who takes the nastiest fall?
-Which character in Saved By the Bell were you most like in high school and why?
-If you could go back in time and play the leading role in any movie ever made, what role would it be and why?
-Which spring sporting event will you celebrate- Final Four, Kentucky Derby, or the Masters?
-You can book any band for one night with 100 friends. Who's on the bill?
-What books stack on the bedside table?
-First Christmas tree. Colored bulbs or white lights?
-Tell one thing about him or her that makes you laugh.
-You must spend $1,000 on your husband. What’s his loot?
-His preference? Coat and tie, or corduroys and a polo?
-Winter, spring, summer, or fall?
-The sun is bright, it's 80 degrees, and it's Saturday. Where are you?
-What hidden talent does your spouse have that would surprise even those who think they know her/ him well?
-You're asked to paint a picture to be hung in the White House. What do you paint?
-What is your favorite hour of the day? Why?
-What is your spouse's favorite activity/hobby?
-You have the day completely to yourself! What do you do? Morning, day, night?
-You have $100 that you have to 'burn'...you cannot save it, you cannot put it toward your budgeted items...this is mad money for you to spend ANY way you like!
-You get to plan your next date night...what do you plan? 1-Money is NO option; 2-Money IS an option.
-What dessert do you choose for your honeybun? :)
-You really want to speak to your spouse's love language! What do you do?
-Favorite personality trait of your spouse?
-Your spouse's favorite book of the Bible?

Hmmmmm....I wonder what date night will look like next week!?!?! It'll be Russell's choice! :)

6 comments:

Elaine Davis said...

that's awesome! I'm always looking for great conversation starter questions...because i'm horrible at coming up with them myself! Tuesday is Keith and my alone night usually too, but i think we're with russell and we pretty much love to veg! Last night it was a quick clean around the apartment (keith has to do that first to relax, and i don't mind at all!) while i cooked thai coconut chicken (yum!) then a little guitar/singing time and falling asleep to the presidential debates. Yay for tuesdays! We should have a double date night sometime!

Mama Matteo said...

hey
great blog. i am so glad yall had fun and maybe next time yall go we can all 5 1/2 go. we like that place. also, i loved the questions and copied them on a word document to ask with dan. thanks for the idea!
love ya
ashley

Chelle said...

I just wanted to let you know I LOVE the date night questions!!!! Keith and I are going to give them a try. It will be fun to see our different are answers will be. What a great idea! I'll let you know how it turns out. Love you lots and miss you more than you know!

Darby said...

Shireen.... You are so creative!! I love love love love love it! The questions were so fun! Justin and I must try it soon! I'll be sure to report back to you when we do! I can't wait to hear what Russell comes up with... the competition is tough with you as his spouse!!! Love you!!!!

The deVilleneuves said...

i love it and can't wait for ryan and i to do those questions on our next date night (or just a night together at home since a date night is probably far away!) thanks for sharing! i love how you are so intentional in all of your relationships!

The Amato's said...

What a great idea! Ryan & I are always looking for creative stuff to do but never seem to follow thru. I cant wait to plan our own "date night" & try these questions out on Ryan.. if I can get him to "dine" with me for two hours, it'll be a miracle!